It is amazing how one word or phrase can change the meaning of a sentence.A well placed word can show loyalty or irritation. It can give praise or demean a human being. A well placed word can broker peace or cause a war.When we speak and write, we should always keep in our minds, the power of words.
The sentence ‘I love you’ elicits a feeling of importance and care. It makes you feel like you are surrounded by a cocoon of the softest cushions and nothing can hurt you there.Your parents tell you they love you, your spouse or partner say the same, and your faith tells you your God loves you. You are secure in this knowledge that you are a good person who deserves their love. On the other hand consider this sentence ‘I HAVE GROWN TO LOVE YOU.’The phrase‘ have grown to’ implies a journey. It gives the impression of a procedure that led to the action for example if your behaviour was Mount Everest, the person had to climb to the top of your proverbial behavioural mountain to finally appreciate you and love you. Loving you can be compared with how a person feels about life after he has battled cancer. That is a love that comes from difficulties and is based on a condition. If you are a religious person, meditate on this sentence ‘God has grown to love you.’If you have a close relationship with your parents, imagine how you will feel if they say‘ We have grown to love you.’ That statement makes me think ‘what is it about me that is so hard to love?’ 'what mountains do you have to climb before you could love me?'
Next we would consider the sentence ‘that is so good’. This elicits a feeling of achievement. It tells you that you have done well and your achievement has been found to be good in the eyes of the person who has made that statement. Parents often use these words with their children to show their approval of their children actions.When an employer uses this phrase, it implies a deep feeling of approval for that staff. Such a staff can expect promotions and accolade if the opportunity presents itself. On the other hand, let’s consider the meaning of the sentence ‘THAT IS SO GOOD, FOR YOU’ the phrase ‘for you’ has changed the meaning of that sentence. It can imply that, considering the subject's background and educational status, such a fit is an achievement for him but not for the speaker. If the child of an uneducated farmer, who has a small piece of land in the village, and hardly earns enough to eat, graduates from the university, his former peers in the village can make this statement about his achievement ‘that is so good.’On the other hand, the child of two professors, whose siblings, grandparents and relations are graduates will say to the farmer's child ‘that is so good, for you’. To him, he admires the achievements of the farmer’s son, not because he got a university education(since that is common in his family) but because he achieved this, against all the odds (considering his poor background).
How important are your words? Do you review your thoughts before you speak?